Thursday, December 01, 2005
what do you do?
now this is a great question for those of us who love our jobs, feel they are distinctly connected to our identity and truly enjoy talking about them. unfortunately, that doesn't cover a whole lot of us. and if you've had life experiences at all similar to my own you've had times in your life where answering this question can feel like a quiz you are sure to fail. what do i do? well let's see, i work part-time at a boring accounting job is that what your asking, or maybe you want to know about my blog and the book i'm hoping to write, or maybe your asking about the community building i do with people in their twenties...i do a lot and most of it doesn't make me any money nor can it be summed up into a simple job title.
answering this question often makes me feel like i should be more sure, more specific and more accomplished than i am. which quite frankly is ridiculous. the problem is not with me, it's with the question, or more accurately with the assumed answer. do you really want to know what my job is or do you want to know more about me?
oriah mountain dreamer's poem the invitation expounds brilliantly on this subject, i've written about the poem in previous posts. as the first lines state:
It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for
and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.
oriah's perspective is refreshing. and reminds me that i am not alone in my frustration with the "what do you do" question.
we clearly are in need of new questions, new ways of sharing the basics of who we are with others. i'm not saying that all of us would be comfortable telling a complete stranger what we ache for, (although some of us i'm sure would) but at least we could tell them something we love to do, or our favorite place in the world, or what kind of music inspires us. we could tell them about us.
i'd love to hear how you answer the "what do you do" question, or your proposal for new questions. post 'em here.
Ug. I would fall on the floor, out cold, if someone asked me what I like to do or what I'd like out of life. Now thats someone I'd like to hang out with! :)
People that ask "What do you do?" Are, to me, more interested in telling YOU what they do. It's like a reverse ego boost or something.
~Shells xoxo (Still loving your blog! So inspiring!!)